I wrote this song as the closing song for Pat's and my wedding. It has gone on to be sung many times in different settings. It has ended concerts. Been part of songs circles. Become the benediction for a church.
There are a couple of stories that go with this song. I remember waking up one morning and looking over at Pat and saying, "Love is the question. Love is the answer.
For so long I believed I was somehow broken and therefore somehow unloveable for who I truly was. My life's regret is the hurt I caused somehow "proving" to those I loved - who loved me - that I was not lovable.
The hardest thing I've ever done is to learn to love myself, to have faith in who I was and what I was doing. Pat has been an amazing companion on what at times felt like an endless journey. There through all the doubts and all the fears.
This is one of the songs I wrote for Pat for our anniversary. For me there are only a few things we need when our basic human needs have been met. This song is both a wish and a thank you.
The hardest thing I've ever done is learn to love myself. The only thing that came close to it was truly letting someone know and love me. Even the broken places. Especially the broken places.
Pat and I have been friends since college and life partners since 1990. In this room you’ll find songs and stories that shine a light our life together. It took a long time for me to realize and give voice to a lifelong challenge I’ve had which is believing I am worthy of loving and being loved. It took someone special to be there through it all. Pat’s that person with me for the long journey and there to greet me when I believe I’m finally home.